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20.10.08 Monday
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mysocalledmind [20.10.08::09:44]
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tyrven [20.10.08::11:17]
#1. I'm not convinced that this is genetic. I'm sure there is a degree of that, sure. But I think there are very clear and obvious foundations for this type of behavior that are clearly scoped in the nurture-zone. Many of these are discussed elsewhere on this thread, but I think the big one is "male guilt".
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tyrven [20.10.08::11:24]
#2. I agree that a lot of this is a cultural reaction to feminism, male guilt and the desire to treat women as equals. We've swung to the opposite extreme where we've mistaken assertiveness with agression.

I think both men and women are coming from the perspective that they don't want to hurt the other person. Unfortunately, as you say, this well-intended action often reinforces the behavior. I think this is best summarized by EmmiG's comment (above): "For most females, it can be really hard to tell a guy who likes you to his face that you hate his guts. Most females try to show common courtesy while kind of making excuses, and a lot of guys mistake that for interest/friendliness so they will repeatedly approach a female and that's where a lot of the unfair 'stalker' rumors get started."